Wife’s friends always requested that she bring me along even though none of the other husbands/partners were coming. When she’d ask why they would just tell her “he’s fun”. I assume, “without being a tiresome asshole” was the unmentioned part.
6’1 eunuch
Fake: Anon has friends
Gay: Anon is presumably built like a twink
Or has egg vibes, and has been preemptively adopted by her soon-to-be girl gang.
Egg?
Basically, someone who hasn’t quite realized they’re not entirely cis yet. “I thought everyone had dreams of being a boy/girl.” “I don’t get all that upset when I’m mistaken for a guy/girl on the phone.” “I don’t really feel comfortable hanging out with other guys/girls. It feels boring.”
Stuff like that. Other trans people can (usually) spot an egg a mile away. But like everything else in queerness, it’s never cut-and-dry, black-and-white, easily defined. They could always just be comfortable enough in their birth-assigned gender to not give a shit, and that’s valid.
It’s considered rude to assign this trait to someone you know personally, and the topic is only broached if the person in question chooses to be vulnerable and ask you specific questions about gender. Otherwise, they are (as always) your friend first, and treating them with care and respect always comes first.
The typical protocol when one of your friends says or does something a little ‘eggy’ is to quietly notice it, treat it neutrally and passively, and not say anything for or against it. Let them figure things out on their own. If they are trans, they know they can ask you things. If they aren’t, then they’re just happy and comfortable being themself around you. In either case, it’s not a bad thing.
“One does not simply crack the egg” - Boromir
Someone who hasn’t realized they’re trans yet
Well when humans go through a trying time they turn into an egg.
Non-binary/egg-gender
Is sperm gender also a term that’s used? Or only egg?
No.
Its a trans femme meme of “when am egg cracks a chick emrges”.
Or so the legends I saw.
Thanks!
I have no idea
I joined a book club on discord, and ended up playing games and watching stuff as well. I am the only guy that shows up to most of it.
But this has also always been how it is. I sat with the girls during lunch years ago when I was in grade school. Most of my mothers family was women, so when I got dragged off to spend time with them for the weekend it was just like that. Joined a frat in college, but ended up spending more time with the sorority girls.
It just be like that.
You must love the tea
Sounds like Anon doesn’t appreciate the fact that he’s part of an inclusive friend group.
“inclusivity” is like the antithesis of 4chan
I had a scenario like this when I was couch surfing while going to college. So there I am in a attic room surrounded by 5? girls and I thought to myself wtf am I doing here. I just came here to do my laundry, my friends girlfriend said it was okay and I could take showers there as well. In hindsight, I realized I’m an idiot. She showed me her room as well. I totally missed the subtle messages; she was very intelligent, she explained her school project about the function of ATP (Adenosine triphosphate). But hey I was a brain dead skateboarder then lol
I don’t understand I’m a braindead biker
I had turned into a biker at one point. It was about an eight mile ride to get this shot. Probably one of my favorite, and probably because riding all the way up there.
Thanks for my new ultrawide desktop background!
You’re welcome! Thanks for using it!
Idk, sounds to me like they feel comfortable around you.
I have a few close female friends, one I even usually share a bed with on trips. I asked her why it’s like this once and it boiled down to “you don’t expect anything from me”.
I do have a partner and usually hang out mostly with women, so maybe I’m just not attractive, who knows
I mean looking back, I don’t disagree. One of the girls would help me with random stuff. Another always wanted to take photos together and put them online, I said no thank you to that. I think that people have different interpretations of attraction. In a way I found being taught about ATP very attractive but I wasn’t going to interject myself between her and my friend. So you probably have an attractiveness beyond a physical appearance.
You are a good dude. If you were fine with being an interloper you would have probably picked up on the vibe.
I don’t know if you’re the idiot you think you are. You didn’t do anything, which rationalised the trust and why they let you in that circle in the first place. That’s a pretty decent level of trust very few men get to.
I would say I’m oblivious at the least. Working in retail I made quite a few female friends, understandably my girlfriend at the time didn’t like that even though I was trying to find friends for her to hang out with after moving to a new place since I could just talk to my friend group on teamspeak and I didn’t want her to feel lonely. I learned the hard way they liked me basically.
And they had reason to, you’ve shown it again
I’ll take the compliment. Thank you.
I’d say you earned it.
They aren’t lying when they talk about how hard it is to trust them.
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Very 🥚
When I was in middle school we had a pull-up test in gym. First all the boys did theirs, then they had to leave and the girls did theirs. Nobody minded me staying because I couldn’t do one just like most of the girls.
I kind of giggled at this, not trying to put you down. I did like around 20-30 and I was like maybe I should stop. -_- I had a military style workout routine every day, not by choice. I don’t like to brag but just vent out the daily torture routine. I think it’s funny that the One Punch Man workout routine is, heh, like nothing.
I don’t like to brag
Hey now, no need to lie. If you had said it while appearing more honest, something like “I wanna brag, because I have put so much effort into this”, you might have gotten a better response. Now it just sounds like, you are bragging, and also a liar.
With all the experiences I’ve had in my life, some of them I wish I was lying about. I could have written I did 50 normal push ups, 50 knuckle pushups, 50 finger pushups, 25 one had push ups for each hand. I mean I could go on with the details of the routine. That would be bragging. All I was trying to get across was that it sucked. My friends were playing outside and there I was working out. I felt that it took away from my childhood. It’s not a brag to say that doing that shit everyday with gym in school, martial arts and track when all I wanted to do was play world of warcraft. To a certain extent, I want to stay anonymous with my posts, you don’t have to believe me.
Yeah, no, I did not mean to imply you did not do all that, that is a communication failure on my part. Just pointing out, that your wording about not bragging, made your message read as something else, than what you likely meant. Unintentionally failing at communication is a big issue online, and I often try to point out, where the miscommunication happened, so that can be avoided in the future. That does not save me too, from failing from time to time, though.
No hard feelings, I just try to convey things as best as I can and it’s a infinite learning process. That’s why I like it here at lemmy, it’s a place I can write about things I can’t bring myself to say in person. And I get that it’s a bit selfish.
I like lemmy too, since I can have interactions like this, where there is communication failure, but we can figure it out. Keep writing, it is not selfish! There are always people like me, who enjoy reading the comments :)
“There are always people like me, who enjoy reading the comments”
I like that, even if you disagree or point out my flaws; it’s all good. It’s why I left reddit. It’s refreshing to have someone point out things instead of just downboating you. I’ll admit, if you read through my comments, the first thought is–you’re full of shit, it doesn’t surprise me. I like to write here, like a diary, of my experiences in life because the older I get the more I realize how abnormal my life was–is.
haha
I’m a straight
ish6’ dude built like a plumber but the lesbians in my DnD group declared me an honorary lesbian.
Ah, that’s the fisting part of girl’s night.
All you had to say was plumber. Pretty sure plumber - bigot = honorary lesbian
Wait, does that mean bigoted lesbians are dishonourable plumbers?
I don’t make the claim but the math maths
Take the W, OP.
Seriously, there’s still potential there.
If nothing else, he might learn to be around women without reverting to a perma-online 4chan incel.
Still a ways to go yet, by the looks of it.
Uhhh potential that OP will realize he just made some friends? Or…?
Having a close group of female friends is not a bad thing for a dude. If none of them are in to you, they surely have friends.
And beyond that, it’s just good
There’s potential for friendship, but I have long hair and have since high-school. I hung out with girls and let them braid my hair and even put make up on me. Still got tons of tail at that time.
It’s almost like being a nice decent person gets you laid a lot.
This is it. Just hang out, relax, and have fun. Be a good dude and you will get laid. It helps that I grew up with sisters and hung out with them a lot.
Where I live is pretty much the opposite unfortunately.
Most girls here love criminals because they’re supposedly cooler and “more manly” and they have lots of (badly earned) money, and are also constantly red-eyed because of drugs.
I’d love to live where you live 😫
Just be a decent human being, nice and caring, and you’ll see, those “bad boy lovers” will disappear from your dreams!
Also, I will say it always helps to work out and have social hobbies. Try to go out and do things with people and eventually you will meet someone.
While I was in high-school I lived in a semi rural state in the US. This was also around 20 years ago. I’ve lived all over the country though. I can always usually make friends at work or through hobbies.
This rocks. Good on you, and good on you for inspiring others with your story.
It was nothing new for me. I grew up with 2 sisters that were very close to my age so I was already letting them decorate my face and hair long before I got into high-school. Still though, it’s a good message to anyone at that age. Don’t take yourself or your “masculine pride” too seriously and just have fun.
*Tell us what really happens when a group of girls hang out together. Is it true they do cliche things like: rituals, eat, fart and poo??
Just watch out for when they start lezzing out
That’s true, my all girl friend group has a tendency to do that. And of course by lezzing out I mean snuggle up with our wives.
If they do…just roll with it
What else can humans do?
That’s a job that I’ve outsourced to AI.
Hey now dudes over 6 feet can be femboys too. Don’t let your height limit your possibilities, king (?queen).
But femboys aren’t girls. That’s literally their entire thing.
Maybe because OP is the first man they meet that doesn’t treat women like sex objects
I was always “basically a girl” in a gir group. It’s great, i don’t even jnderstand what the problem is.
Vocabulary, mostly.
Mostly, vocabulary.
Well, if you have hopes of sticking your little pecker in one or multiple of those girls, then those expectations would lead to disappointment.
Sometimes people just fuck regardless of what the friend zone rules say.
Did you know that sometimes girls have sex with each other too?
never seen it, care to give an example?
I’m pretty sure the lack of that is what gets you honorary girl status.
fake: op talks to girls
gay: op is one of the girls
Fake: OP is >6ft tall. Gay: OP turned into a les(trans)bian.
Ah the great 4chan anon paradox.
Fake: OP didn’t get invited anywhere, because he posts on 4chan.
Gay: If OP did get invited to “girl’s night”, it’s because he is gay, but that didn’t happen because this is fake (see item 1 above.)
