• CouncilOfFriends@slrpnk.net
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    3 個月前

    While a cat will cost more on the long term, proposing with a kitten seems like it would be nigh impossible to turn down. Who says no to a kitten? I don’t believe it has happened in recorded history.

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        That was us. Our wedding bands were about that all in, and I got their engagement ring for about $125.

        I think everything we did for our wedding, rings included, was around $1500. The majority of that was booze.

    • Tar_Alcaran@sh.itjust.works
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      We didn’t do rings. I worked in a chemistry lab, husband has a skin issue and wearing a ring would probably mean nonstop doctor visits.

      So we just didn’t have rings. It’s really very simple.

      • OwOarchist@pawb.social
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        I just really hate the feeling of wearing rings.

        If I was ever to get married (I won’t), then I wouldn’t have a ring.

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      I agree with you, but I’d say it’s a 50/50 toss up with women. Half of them would agree with us. The other half are too busy planning a 300k wedding on a 15/hr salary. Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.

      I know a lot of women who would be thrilled to be proposed to with a cat.

      In the past, I’ve also known women who would be sour that they didn’t get a ring. I try not to know that type of person for long.

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        Thinking that 50 percent of women are shallow gold diggers seems a bit high. There are plenty of men who have superficial feelings about how they want their wife to look, but it’s nowhere near 50/50. Usually those gym bros and trophy wives pair up so they’re not really hurting anyone normal with their expectations.

        Personally, I wear a silicone ring. So does my spouse. Our rings for our wedding were a hand me down and a band with a non diamond stone. That said, it’s fair to want a ring. It’s fair to want the tradition, and it’s fair to be comforted by the idea that your partner has been thinking about asking you to merge lives for longer than just today. A ring used to mean more when women weren’t allowed their own bank accounts (actually very recently, in the scheme of things), but it’s still meaningful in a society where we’re taught (incorrectly) that men value non commitment, and don’t want to get “chained” to a “nagging wife.”

        Funnily, it’s guys who make comments like you (that it’s a total toss up whether any woman has an ounce of substance to her or if she’s a total bimbo who only cares about money) that make women afraid that men are not going to fully commit which is why things like a big unnecessary time commitment before the proposal seems romantic and reassuring

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        Those types sometimes care more about the ring than the partner.

        I have heard of them, “he hasn’t proposed yet so I left him” kinda thing. That guy was probably happy with things and completely unaware she expected anything to change.

        I do find it odd that when I have looked at posts about it before the vast majority of weddings seem to be super expensive or super cheap. Very little in the middle. Like 3 digits going to a pub for food or 5+ getting fucking everything.

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          We were sort of in the middle? Wedding dress was a prom dress from Debenham’s (70 quid), Edinburgh registry office, a few friends, 1 brother and the parentals. Afternoon tea at the Balmoral. Not cheap but not 5 figures either.

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            Ohh that sounds like a nice idea. Much smaller event but something nice.

            Not sure how much of my family would go, they are spread across different corners of the UK. Meanwhile my partner’s family is all packed into an area I can walk across.

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        Honestly, propose to me with a new Akrapovic Slip-On exhaust for my Hornet 750 and a small ceremony near the water in the country with a moto camping trip as the honeymoon and I’d be in biker girl heaven.

        Could get away with the whole shebang for under $10k

        To be fair, that exhaust probably costs as much as most wedding rings anyway lol.

    • Cethin@lemmy.zip
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      I agree, but also, if you can’t afford a cheap ass ring, you probably can’t afford a pet. It doesn’t need to be something fancy. If you care about that tradition (not implying the person in the image does), you can get rings pretty cheap if you don’t need the whole diamond thing, and even cheaper if you’re willing to buy second-hand.

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    Could you imagine being so shallow that the only thing that’s important is spending a lot of money and not having genuine love…

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        “Marriage is a government sanctioned contract”

        It can’t get more romantic than that. /j

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        At least in the US the marriage contract gives a massive ton of legal access to shared things, discounts, medical decisions, and a bunch of other stuff. You can kind of come close by spending a bunch of money on legal documentation, but still not exactly the same.

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        I saw that when i was like eight years old and apparently you’re the only other person in the world who saw it because nobody acts like anything on the internet could ever be fake

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          Yeah but also there’s the “nothing ever happens” crowd and they’re equally as annoying.

          I think in this case it’s a bit irrelevant anyway, the financial situation is irrelevant but clearly he is proposing in clearly he does have a kitten everything else is immaterial really.

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          It was the only cartoon that was on the minute I got back from school. With 4 channels available it was this, Bargain Hunters, some soap opera or the news.

          Arthur was not very funny or particularly interesting, but it sure beat out the alternatives.

          The theme tune has been stuck in my head for 30 years…

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    Okay but why would he want to marry her? Maybe she has a trust fund or disability benefits he wants to mooch off.

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    That he can’t afford it is a stupid assumption imo, this looks like a deliberate choice. Being responsible for raising and taking care of a kitten together is a much bigger commitment than wearing a ring.

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      Meh, it’s all fake af probably but the initial post says he was couldn’t afford a ring so if we’re going with it then yeah he is poor in this hypothetical.

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    Julie’s right though, marriage is a contract a financial commitment. If you don’t have much money there’s no point in getting the government involved in your lifelong partnership. You can have a wedding and all that if you want for cultural reasons, but if you’re submitting that paperwork to the government it’s just a waste if you’re poor. Hell, im middle class and we still aren’t getting married because our taxes would go up, so yeah i dont need a government contract telling me i have to stay with my partner or something.

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      Honest question, where are you that taxes go up if you get married? In most places I know, things get more tax efficient when you’re married. You can typically transfer assets (or debts) between each other without incuring the taxes you would if you weren’t married, and you can make more efficient use of tax free allowances.

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    22 years of marriage here. Never bought, given, or worn a diamond in my life.

    Marriage rings are a marketing campaign created to sell you a piece of carbon that is so “rare” they put them on $12 drill bit sets.

    Yep. Yep. Different quality stones. Gotcha. Interested in buying a bridge by chance?

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      Yeah I’m not that far into marriage and I swear someday I’ll get around to getting a nice ring, but I currently wear a silicone one and my wife wears an heirloom ring from her family.

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      How much for the bridge? I would need a guarantee though that it’s actually used and not just buolilt on flat land in the middle of nowhere! I am no fool after all.

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      natural diamonds, are indeed rare, in part because of the marketing campaign driving up demand for an completely useless use of them

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        They really aren’t, De Beers just had a cartel on the diamond industry and artificially restricted the supply to drive up prices. They have massive deep storage vaults filled with gem quality diamonds just so it can maintain pricing.

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      Carbon is the 4th most abundant element in the galaxy. Silicon is twice as rare, so maybe spend 6 month’s salary on a quartz ring instead? Either that, or save up for a down payment on a house. Nah, who needs a place to live when you can have a hunk of mineral, right?

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    Especially as diamond rings are costly to purchase, but have relatively low resale value.

    Buying her a diamond ring only shows you have money to burn.