• razorcandy@discuss.tchncs.de
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    7 days ago

    Not that it affects me in any way, but I cannot understand why anyone would choose to do that when there are ways of looking at even more boobs (uncensored ones at that) without having your face, legal name, and marital status publicized along with it. 🤯

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      1 day ago

      But those are natural, grass fed, free range, boobs. Not the ultra processed kind you see in specialized websites.

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      I’m not really the demographic (30s married bi lady who’s never followed someone for boobs), but I think I get it.

      All boobs are great, but being able to interact with the owner of the boobs can make them even better, even if it’s only a theoretical interaction like when following someone on social media

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        Everyone’s relationships are different, but having a parasocial relationship feels more unfaithful than just watching random porn.

        At least, this is how I’d feel about a partner watching porn.

        If a future partner of mine watched a streamer of some kind of sexual nature, that would not be cool with me personally. None of my past partners have done this so, only hypothetical.

        To each their own, I guess!

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          Oh yeah, I definitely think it’s creepy, but I get it. Like asking for someone’s number at their work, it’s something I wouldn’t do but can emotionally understand, as opposed to something like stealing someone’s panties that I can cognitively understand, but I don’t get it get it.

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        7 days ago

        I feel like parasocial relationships are like lead: there is no healthy minimum level of exposure, only steadily increasing and accumulating toxic effects.

    • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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      7 days ago

      my guess has that random faceless porn doesn’t build parasocial relationships. OF is made exactly for that. but they are cheapskates

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        Honestly I’m shocked OF is even a succesful business when twitter exists. The amount of hornyposting/straight up porn accounts on there is staggering.

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      For me it was that I have a very open and casual relationship with enjoying human bodies. Yeah I think its beautiful, yeah it makes me a little horny, no I’m not ashamed that I’m attracted to and supportive of tasteful nudity on the internet.

      But the honest answer is that most men are lazy and a bit crass.

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    7 days ago

    As a 40 year old unmarried and single dude I do follow some incredibly hot transwomen for fairly similar reasons. Whaddaya gonna do? I’m lonely.

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      6 days ago

      Just a note: It’s trans women, two words. Trans is an adjective not a prefix, we’re women that happen to be trans - Putting them together is often a dog whistle for hate groups

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        I mean, people write baloney instead of bologna. Maybe just take the win and drown the dog whistle so it’s no longer a thing.

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          It’s not a win, it’s a way to talk about trans women by othering them and calling them something besides women

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            I hear you, and I’m not saying that’s not valid. But clearly this was not the case. And a lot of people write in whatever way that sounds like when they speak, without this fine attention to grammar - so this is bound to happen often by people that have zero intention of othering anyone.

            I think there are more important fights to pick when it comes to trans inclusivity. This could sit in the back burner a little longer, for when trans people at large are no longer in fear for their lives for existing.

            But that’s just my opinion. Live your truth.

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        I’ve also heard the opposite, that separating the two words is separating them from the very idea that they’re inherently women, whereas conjoining them is making them whole. I suppose there’s still varying interpretations.

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          Its not varying, trans is an adjective. They are women, they are also trans. Its not a new thing altogether, trans women are a type of woman.

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            I’m not arguing, I understand and appreciate your input. I am just telling you the idea that was conveyed to me by a trans woman that led me to putting them together in the past. I am not implying it is something new or that what you’re saying is wrong.

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          I’ve seen some folks refer to themselves as transfems, but I’ve only ever seen “trans women” because putting the two words together tries to make us sound like a separate thing. Funny that you’ve seen the same logic for the opposite.

          But ultimately, “trans” is an adjective and a separate word. We don’t say “tallwomen” or “shortwomen” because tall and short are separate from the fact that they’re women.

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    7 days ago

    Wait, I thought she was saying the wives follow a bunch of young women and was confused until the boobs sorted everything out.

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    6 days ago

    Don’t mind it when its dudes openly looking for porn following very obvious porn accounts.

    Following random young women’s personal accounts that aren’t for hornyposting seems weird.