OP, for the drama bait. Woof.
Sommehow reminds me of this story:
“A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to the other side. The two monks glanced at one another because they had taken vows not to touch a woman. Then, without a word, the older monk picked up the woman, carried her across the river, placed her gently on the other side, and carried on his journey. The younger monk couldn’t believe what had just happened. After rejoining his companion, he was speechless, and an hour passed without a word between them. Two more hours passed, then three, finally the younger monk could contain himself any longer, and blurted out “As monks, we are not permitted a woman, how could you then carry that woman on your shoulders?” The older monk looked at him and replied, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river, why are you still carrying her?”
Tell me you got banned from reddit and miss it dearly without telling me
Woman bad. 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
stop posting ragebait this isnt reddit
I must be weird, or maybe it’s because I used to date someone like Grey, but the impression I got about green is not that they said that because they didn’t want to go out anyway, it was that they were glad grey revealed themselves to be uninterested in them even if it was kind of in a sleazeball way, acting like it was just fine to cancel last minute to go be with someone else.
More like green was happy grey pretty much just sent up a red flag and confirmed that they dodged a bullet.
Was that not the point we were supposed to take away from this?!
Love your chicken, by the way.
Gray does not understand the relief of cancelled plans.
“Cancelling plans is like heroin.” -John Mulaney
It is literally like being told you can leave work early and still get paid.
Mmm the ragebait tastes so good though I feel righteous and angered
Although rude, I appreciate when people tell me outright I’m not a priority for them. So I can adjust my own.
Who’s in the wrong here?
Everyone in this thread who is too stupid to realize this is fake rage bait.
As is your comment. Rage bait within rage bait. Meta rage bait. Ragebaitception. Ragebaiturducken. I see you.
Have you ever considered that other people are smart enough to realize it’s probably a hypothetical scenario?
The important thing is that you found a way to appear superior to everyone.
teal really proved living well is the best revenge.
I don’t get why people are confused about this.
Grey was horrible human being first. Green’s reply was a response that horribleness. It’s not like green was genuinely waiting to spring that.
…probably.
The only reason grey is in the won’t is for not giving more notice. Like either cancel earlier or plan your other date on another night in the first place. Calling that “horrible” is a but strong IMO. Definitely rude and inconsiderate but dating is completely unpredictable these days.
Greens response could’ve meant (s)he had a busy day at work and was glad to put their feet up. The bluntness met have been unintended.
Grey then exploded and made it a problem, showing that green actually dodged a bullet.
(s)he
✨they✨
(t)hey
(t)heyyy
(w)hat’s the name of that doc?
he … OR SHE
i think i was referencing a movie or tv show scene when a guy was trying to be progressive and when they were talking about an unknown person, he kept going “he … OR SHE did this or that”
I thought you were referencing this bit by comedian James Acaster: https://youtu.be/Zt5qJC1xQ8A
yes, this, i converted this into a scene in my memories lol
(s(t))he(y)
That doesn’t make a lot of sense. The T could only be there when the S is also there. I think what you’re going for would look more like
(s/t)he(y)
Or maybe
(s)(t)he(y)
I mean it was a joke but yeah (s/t)he(y) works better
I know it was a joke, I wouldn’t have suggested better alternatives otherwise haha
Counterpoint: Grey’s responses take a solid 30 mins. Green does not bother to clarify what they meant that entire time.
Did green go overboard? Yes. Could grey have communicated at all? Also Yes.
Maybe they died?
Of cringe, checks out
or were commuting home, having texted as soon as they got off work
I can’t find it, but there’s a webcomic where stick figure guy sends a text, and then immediately throws his phone off a cliff.
Youre blaming them for not responding for 30min? Im happy when people reply the same day, same goes for me. And Im glad people arent so obsessed with their phones that theyre constantly available.
My mom once blew up at me because I didn’t respond to her text for 23.5 hours.
“Sorry to bother you. I thought you might give a fuck but I see I was mistaken. I won’t bother you again.”
She didn’t call, she didn’t email, she just sent a text and then exploded when I didn’t respond (because I didn’t see it). Anyways, she’s blocked now–I don’t want to make a liar out of my mother, so I won’t let her bother me.
Neither one is someone I want to talk to but grey really should’ve just put the phone down and focused on that promising opportunity
I don’t think grey actually has another “opportunity”. This feels like a negging tactic to me.
Remind me what negging is again
If I understand it correctly, it’s the use of negative framing of another person’s physical attributes or demeanor, constructed in the hope the receiver of the “negging” has low enough self-esteem to agree with the assessment and will assume the asshole is a person of higher intrinsic worth.
There might be more to it, but I usually just think of it as a form of reverse psychology + emotional abuse.
That’s right, thanks. I haven’t heard it in awhile
I think demeaning or belittling are the old timey terms for the same behavior. Negging is just the term when it’s used as a strategy by incel/pickup culture assholes.
Gotcha. That makes sense
Green has a decent counter play against being snubbed first, but it surely is a dick move versus just saying “okay, cheers”.
However, we humans do crave drama, and I’ve been entertained, so I think in the grand scheme of things, as a miniature Shakespearean tragic comedy, I will allow for it to be cosmically more good than bad. Perhaps they both learned something. Or it’s all fake ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Not sure if I’d count what Green did as bad, in any way.
Petty, maybe, but justice demanded grey have some social consequences for their behaviour, and green most certainly delivered.
Having someone show their red flag this early warrants a “thank god” methinks. Also, “thank the flying spaghetti monster” is more like it.
Also, “thank the flying spaghetti monster” is more like it.
Christ alive, y’all are some enlightened individuals. *tips fedora*
Christ alive
Spelled Chris wrong, buddy.
I’d throw in a Hail Satan for good measure tbh
Red flag? “This is going to sound bad but I need to cancel, sorry” is way more than you’ll get dating, 90% of the time. IG they could’ve told them sooner, but I also don’t know how serious things are. It looks like a perfectly adult response.
Regardless, saying “Thank God” when you were just confirming a date with someone feels like a knee-jerk reaction to save face and insult the person you feel ditched you.
The proper and respectful way to cancel a date would be to say - for example - “look, I’ve thought this through and I am not feeling it, I changed my mind about further dates, I appreciate the time you spent with me & I wish you all the best!”
The red flag here is mentioning someone “promising” and not wanting to miss the opportunity. It says in the same words “you are not a promising character”. The comparison is the hurtful thing you don’t say out loud if you want to be respectful of someone’s feelings.
And the proper respectful thing would be to give the person you’re cancelling with more notice than an hour before hand, and only after they contacted you to confirm.
I hope they got in such a tizzy over this that it ruined their “plans with someone else” cause they showed up all sour.
Dating culture is so toxic, I’m glad it’s just me and my cat these days…
See this is the variety of shitpost where it’s just a shit post.
Grey didn’t value Green’s time, even stated someone better came along. Green responded with shade in response for this lack of respect, Grey had a crash out because her lesser choice had teeth.
Interesting you feel that was the her. There at no genders stated.
This is an /r/SipsTea male rage bait post, of course the chuds think it’s about them.
I mean, for most of the post they tried not to and a single “her” fell out. Something to consider.
I feel it is an interesting question though. I too assigned genders while reading this the first time so is it naturally ingrained in me? Or is it because of the first person POV of text message exchanges like this?
Are women reading this and assuming the other way around? Would a different format (eg changing the bubbles to other side, or paragraph format like in a novel) change who we think is which gender?
I try to be impartial, but each misstep online gets hammered on hard because apparently you need to be perfect for the imperfect themselves. Changing now would just be admitting to something i"m not so you cannot win. Shrugs I do my best and try to not let small mistakes turn into mountains.
As well I see other people posting the grey is female initially so that might have influenced me and I didn’t see anyone else calling them out.
