Last time I checked, yunohost.org worked well. It either has the services you’re interested in, or it doesn’t… But it’s really easy to get it running. Docker containers also usually work well. Though, you need some amount of technical knowledge. And I’d recommend to use something like docker-compose and not do everything manually… If you’re a beginner, maybe just try YunoHost.

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I tried using yunohost and some others but they all sucked. I went with just using the bare podman cli

Wouldn’t any VPS basically work as it’s providing you the Os (usually Linux) and it’s up to you to deploy the apps you want?

Correct me if I’m wrong, but aren’t most of them available as containers? Why would you need any hypervisor support beyond containers?

I believe you are using the wrong terminology. A hypervisor is a software suite that helps manage virtual machines. You are just looking for easy ways to spin up fediverse software. Docker with docker compose is all you need, and if you need a gui for it, dockge or portainer will be usable. Having at least a little bit of networking and container knowledge is necessary as well, as there is nothing out there yet that is “one click” for running those things. I started with Lemmy, as there is Lemmy-easy-deploy that does a lot of the heavy lifting for you.

Currently checking out coolify, dokploy, runtipi, and cosmos. Cosmos is the only one I’ve found other than yunohost with lemmy in the appstore that lets you selfhost.