I’m in my city’s Share&Care chat and you wouldn’t believe how many people keep asking for sound cancelling headphones for their babies because they want to go to some concert

Baby carriers are expensive xD

That’s moronic, not gonna lie, but I just want to say, man, being the first one in my friend group to have had a kid, it was bonkers what I was invited to, with all seriousness. Concerts, house parties, clubs,… When I pointed out I have a 3 week old baby it was “just leave it with their dad for the night!” When I told them it was a fully breastfed baby it was “oh then just bring the baby! It’ll be fun!” When I tried to point out that I am exhausted, recovering, and am using any minute that I don’t tender to the baby to sleep - as did my partner - I got “oh wow I thought they mostly sleep lol, well ok then maybe next week at that other house party at the other end of the city? It will be full of people you don’t know and it starts at 10 pm, there will be beer but you can bring some hard liquor!”

So, to heavily play devil’s advocate, maybe these are new parents that were pressured into being cool and staying the same despite having a baby… By outsiders or by themselves.

Why aren’t Normies speaking up

I’m the most bland person you’ll ever meet and I kept all my CDs and DVDs. I would never buy something only as digital/cloud format that I couldn’t burn on a disc. It gave me anxiety from the beginning. I have multiple external storages with the same copies of photos and I still print the most precious ones out. I’ll have music and memories if the internet ever breaks down, I just need a power generator.

I also absolutely don’t see physical copies of books, music, or movies, as clutter. Booklets in CDs are to die for, and I think it makes for great room decor. If I burn a CD I usually make some collage artwork as a cover to accompany the disc.

I am so awkward and clumsy at self checkout that I absolutely need the human interaction with a cashier, and I am faster that way. By far. The thought of not having cashiers is giving me anxiety

Oh can I chime in with a question as well?

What is that “and then there’s this fucking asshole” muscle? Because from the location that is exactly the asshole that got me hospitalized twice for intercostal neuralgia - once with an ambulance ride, highest doses of morphine (didn’t ease the pain and made me very sick and whiny), and an x ray because they assumed I had broken a rib bone.

When I had my third attack I recognized it was that fucking thing again and that I could do nothing but wait it out for two days. I also realized there is a connection to emotional distress and it probably has a big psychosomatic factor. I hadn’t had a big attack in years but when I get distressed I still get pain in that stripe next to my spine. It gets tense just writing this out and remembering.

I’ve given birth and with the biggest honesty and calm asked my partner to kill me during labor. The intercostal neuralgia was about 2% less painful than childbirth and I didn’t end up with a cute baby afterwards so it’s really not worth the pain. It’s cramping up to a point that I think the muscle will rip, then it goes away. After a couple of seconds again, cramp, can’t breathe, can’t talk, gone. For days. Nowadays it’s usually not that bad that I cannot breathe but WHAT IS THIS FUCKER and what can I do to strengthen it and, more importantly, to actively relax it?

Not wishing him dead isn’t the same as tolerating him and his beliefs

Damn the replies to your comment are wild.

I agree with everything you say. I hate this man but I am not as petty as to think this is funny or that he should die.

Would you mind to elaborate that? I am genuinely curious and want to learn. I am not quite sure what you are referring to - being looked at with admiration or being talked about in a derogative way (the teeth comment)? I can’t really wrap my head around and it seems like I am missing something.

For real, I am even calling over friends for help to set up a Windows PC or a printer. I have absolutely no idea about technology and computers. I want something easy and mainstream because this way I have an easier time getting support. Two steps are one step too much. I have a lot of strengths but understanding tech is definitely not one of them. And frankly, I neither have the time nor interest to learn anything about it. I have a great respect for linux and I have fond memories of playing a game on my dad’s computer, but it’s not something that’s for me.

I 100% agree with everything you said. I am very much pro legalisation of weed and decriminalization of all drugs. Unless you are cooking up tons and tons of fentanyl you shouldn’t be in jail.

To me, education and awareness includes not equating marijuana and oregano.

I am making the argument for both, that is exactly the point I am making. I see too many people demonising alcohol and calling marijuana not dangerous in the same sentence, comparing it to oregano. Both substances are dangerous. And of course marijuana is addictive, what are you talking about? You can absolutely become both physically and mentally addicted to it. You can develop a tolerance, and you can trigger psychosis in predisposed younger people. I’ve seen all three cases in university and it wasn’t pretty.

Again, I am not advocating for the criminalisation of possession or consumption. I am only advocating for not downplaying that mj is a drug. Right now, the narrative parallels that “a glass of wine or two won’t hurt”, “let’s have a beer with friends”, “let’s get the champagne to celebrate”, “alcohol is fine at social events” that we used to hear some decades ago about alcohol. It didn’t end well. Why are we doing this again with weed now?

While I absolutely don’t agree with atzanteol, this statement is also utterly ridiculous. You own both marijuana and oregano with the intention of consumption. One of them is addictive, can cause psychosis, and can destroy lives.

All drugs should be decriminalized. So should weed. Maybe it even should be legal. But let’s try to not repeat the same mistakes we did with alcohol. Nowadays I think most people would agree that alcohol can be consumed in moderation, but its overall effect on public health is devastating and alcoholism is a real problem that affects way too many people, also people you wouldn’t think of. Science revised its guidelines of claiming a little drink a day is fine or even healthy to the best choice is no drink at all.

Its dangers were downplayed for so, so long. And now that we are legalizing weed I see the exact same sentiments about it that alcohol used to have. Marijuana is not an innocent, harmless substance. It can easily be abused and cause damage to individual lives, families, and friends.

I mean I still got some years to go but I am now wearing clothes that I’ve worn 15-18 years ago. I have one jacket I wore in first grade that I now wear as a bolero.

Fast fashion was really durable back then I guess.

Are you friends with Dave?

It’s interesting you point that out. It seems it shows the grip of Reddit and Lemmy as well. Since I am not in the US I am not in touch with their regular news outlets and media. I’ve never seen the Dem shooter before. Somehow he wasn’t that talked about.

Yeah, I am all for a rather low age of consent, but 10 is crass.

Bottom left is the Trump shooter, bottom right the alleged Kirk shooter. No clue who the upper left dude is

That’s true, there isn’t much sadness going around. It reminds me a bit of the reaction to the healthcare CEO shooting.

I remember the take that resonated with me the most was in a piece by Josh Johnson at that time. He first told a story about a friend named Marty that had died from disease. “Brian Thompson was a human being. He was a husband, a father. Ok. So was Marty.” It feels the same this time around.

It is sad that a person died. It is sad that kids are now left without a father. But you can simultaneously acknowledge that the person who has died has actively helped to create more people who lost their loved ones. And once you do that, it is hard to hold up the general sympathy.

It’s not my thing to celebrate the death of a person. No matter how evil. I cannot wholeheartedly yell out good riddance. But weighing one against the other, I can’t force a tear.

Gay bears