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Cake day: September 13th, 2023

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  • My UU ordained friend is a nonbinary activist who was in Minneapolis during the ICE shit.

    The first time I went to a UU service, I was invited to a rationalist group that meets there.

    It’s all of the good things about religion (ie - community. People who will meal train for you when you are in trouble, people who will teach your kids good shit) without much of the baggage.

    I’m personally going to start attending either a UU or a really loosely Methodist group just for the social aspect. I think one of the failures of atheism is the lack of acknowledgment of the benefits of community and ritual. There’s not enough “third places” in the world, and churches can fill that roll quite well. Perhaps this is just my own recent near death experience speaking, but it’s good to have a community that cares about you.


















  • It just gives me the vibes of what happened to Johnathan Joss - the King of the Hill actor who was murdered. He was married to a trans men, and they had received homophobic harassment which the cops had refused to do anything about. The murder wasn’t “about” him being married to a trans man, but you can’t separate it.

    I wonder if this is a similar situation. Cops do not take trans men seriously.

    For those wondering why this is “lesbian” paper - many trans men have connection/ with the lesbian community. We often spend some time identifying as lesbians because if it’s the community we might have come of age in. It’s not something i really identify win, but it’s not that unusual.







  • Actual advice:

    Your job is not to explain to the person what they are feeling is not real or rational. This is actively unhelpful. The experience is very very very real to the person undergoing it.

    Remember that your body is chemicals. There are chemical systems that exist to tell you that you are in immediate, life threatening danger. These chemicals are able to override everything else - it is clearly evolutionary favorable to be able to just be on high alert sometimes.

    These chemicals override your ability to reason. In the moment, some sort of physiological, primal reminder of safety. Food is good. Lying down. Touch and kind words from someone you feel safe around. Something that tells your body crisis is over and it is time to activate the parasympathetic nervous system.

    Breathing exercises can be good, but if you do them like a drill sergeant that can make things much worse.

    I’m fortunate at this point I think that I’ve burned out my body out with caffeine and high danger activities, along with experiencing something like Christian hell in a bad weed trip. I don’t think I react properly to danger anymore, but I don’t experience panic attacks annymoe either.