• peopleproblems@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    So ive put a lot of thot into this, and after going through what I did with my ex wife, I think it wouldn’t be a problem so long as

    A. I know about it.

    B. I get access to it and all paid content

    C. No one else appears in it. This covers the whole “well that was an old video I uploaded” scenario too.

    D. The relationship is otherwise secure.

    E. But the real problem would be someone with an onlyfans wanting to date me.

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      9 months ago

      It’s fine to not want to date someone with an onlyfans, but I feel like the guys who go out of their way to say it usually have other red flags about

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        9 months ago

        I just ask that people realize what I realize, which is it’s an issue with ME that I’m not secure enough to be with a person who I can see having sex with someone else. I cannot control my feelings but I am responsible for them, or at the very least, other people are not responsible for them(at least in this example anyway it’s not as if the of model was having sex with other people AT me.)

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            9 months ago

            Oh absolutely, I dont feel bad about that. But the feeling I get thinking about being with someone who does that kind of stuff is exactly a feeling of insecurity. It’s fine and normal, same way its normal to have a little anxiety or a little depression. In healthy doses it’s essentially just personality traits, but to me those feeling stem from insecurity. Perhaps it’s even innate and not something to be ‘fixed’ but it still feels like insecurity to me. But I’m realizing that I suppose I can only speak for myself here.

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        9 months ago

        I mean, I wouldn’t want to deal with the mental gymnastics involved with my significant other getting down with other people

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          9 months ago

          An open relationship isn’t that weird of a concept to some. It’s about how much others mean to you, not how much of them you posess. People in these comments are fucking pathetic for not understanding this basic fact of healthy relationships: You do not own anyone else. To any degree. Period.

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            9 months ago

            That’s a neat story you got there, but literally nobody here is saying they do own someone else.

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              9 months ago

              Why yes you are correct: what I’m saying isn’t appliccable to 100% of people! Do you want a gold star for your basic observation?

              It’s like you retards don’t understand that not everyone has or wants the same relationship.

              You are in this comic.

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                    9 months ago

                    do you want a gold star for your obsevation

                    you retards

                    you are in this comic

                    Haha yeah, only 75% of your comment was attempting to be insulting in some way! How could anybody think you’re being an ass? Poe’s law sure is crazy.