Buy a bike 😅

There are many solutions. I have chosen xmpp/ejabberd/conversations/monal.

I just like it and I value my privacy. I don’t try to convince anyone. I explain it is both a hobby and a kind of political statement.

You have a very restrictive definition of a smartphone. Sideloading is a natural way for installing apps. In fact it has for a very long time been the only way to install apps on a Windows computer.

Immich, Vaultwarden, Radicale, Cozy, FindMyDevice, Ejabberd, Hauk, Memos, Beszel, Docker-Mailserver, Crowdsec,…

Self-hosting for a bit less than 10 years. My main pain is that my setup is now stable and I have nothing left to tinker with.

Look at https://github.com/coturn/coturn

Your own xmpp server

They should support GrapheneOS rather than try and make something “more free” from LineageOS.

You’re not tech savvy… Don’t self-host a password manager!

I’m in my SSO moment. Been trying Authelia - too hard configuring - then TinyAuth - very nice but limited -, Pocket-ID - a jewel but allows only passkeys -. Now back to Authelia.

I have self-hosted Matrix for a couple of years. I eventually settled with xmpp/ejabberd/conversations. It is easier to maintain and less resource intensive, especially if you want to go the federation route.

This

I have been self-hosting my mail server for the past 5 or 6 years with success. Recently my ISP decided to close port 25 so I have to use a third party to deliver my outgoing mail.

Many devs of FOSS Android apps won’t be willing to disclose their identity, and there will be no market left for them. Which means abandoning the maintenance of their apps.

And so, where is the problem?.. Your message is scanned. If it is illegitimate you can’t send it. What is the problem?

I genuinely don’t understand what you are paying for. I must have missed something.

What cost?

It is hard to set up and you might need an SMTP relay since most ISPs close port 25. But it is feasible.

I have everything at home, including the mail server. The only third party to my setup is a SMTP relay. All on an Odroid H4+. With a backup server on a Raspberry Pi 4 at my daughter’s.